Monday 29 December 2014

My Personal Experience of Getting Married Young

I was twenty when my husband proposed to me. We had been together for around eight months. He was finishing his post-graduate diploma and I was earning minimum wage in a desk job. We lived with our propspective parents which meant we actually spent most nights together however at eachothers houses.

Knowing we had no home to call ours and no means at that time to begin building a nest we knew it would be a long engagement. Three and a half years later we had our own place, good jobs and a good  life so we got married.

I have read many many articles that speak strongly about the fact that a woman shouldn't feel the need to get married to be a success. I agree with this stance whole-heartedly. No person whether male or female should be judged by their marital status. When we finally set a date however, all I was told was that I was too young to get married and that I should be waiting. This annoyed me greatly. If we commend a woman for not getting married then why can we commend a woman for getting married?

This issue isn't clear cut though. There are many factors at play here. Not only is the marriage thing an issue but also the question of taking my husband's name. I did by the way, because I liked my husband's surname and because I didn't feel any connection to my maiden name. This was a family name shared with my mum, which is of course a connection but I didn't speak to the family it came from. I didn't feel I had any obligation to protect the name.

Marriage provides many different things. It provides some security, a forever feeling. It is nice to know that I have someone whom I share a deep connection with. 

The women who choose not to get married but share their lives with or without partners are strong people. Some of our society does look upon unmarried people are "failures". But those strong women should not look down on their fellow women who choose to marry and tell them not to. I sometimes find that feminisim can sometimes fail in friendships between women. We have to choice to marry, to divorce, to not have children or to have children. We should rejoice in the fact that I had a choice as to whether I took my husbands name unlike a hundred or so years ago where I would have had no choice whatsoever.

Best Wishes

xox

Monday 22 December 2014

Our Law-makers Faceplant

Good Evening

Our lawmakers routinely make "boos-boos", stupid mistakes and face-plants. However the one I would like to focus on this evening is one which saw a large protest staged outside the houses of parliament involving face-sitting. Yes you know it, the new regulations on porn made in the UK.

I have several issues with this policy. Firstly I watch porn. I am not ashamed of this. Many women now admit to enjoy seeing the odd erotic film. I enjoy watching various different types depending on my mood. As a woman who has been in a loyal relationship for four and a half years it is nice to sometimes live vicariously. To fantasise if you will.

But why did our law makers feel it necessary to punish women (ban on showing female ejaculation), people whose tastes are different (BDSM) and homosexuals (ban on face-sitting although of course this applies in heterosexual sex as well). But the overriding factor on this is a ban on female pleasure.

Yet gangs of men sleeping with one women and ejaculating upon her is allowed. No that's good sport, they cry. Anal sex, well we can't ban that, they demand. Well I am not being funny but if those acts are allowed then surely they can show a woman enjoying them. Or other acts.

This law was put in place in order to protect the vunerable and young. Fair enough, anything to protect our children I would whole heartedly agree with. But banning female ejaculation? Yes, that makes sense. This is totally been put in place to protect.

Furthermore, instead of changing rules to "bring them in line with modern times" why don't you focus on bankers bonuses and taxes loopholes Mr Cameron? Surely this would be a better use of your time?

Best Wishes

xox

Sunday 21 December 2014

An Admission

I have had several blogs in the past. I love writing, blogging, being opinionated and forthright. In the past however I haven't wanted to be as opinionated as to avoid offending or getting into an argument.

However there are many subjects I feel very strongly about and so via this blog I would like to start talking about the things that matter to me.

In this first blog I would like yo introduce myself. I am currently 23 years old. I am married to a lovely man five years my senior. I live in South Yorkshire. I study part time in social studies and politics. I work for an estate agents in a support capacity.

I love to write. I love to read. I love to learn. I love to research. Mysteries are something I wish I could be paid to solve although I am not ready to join the police force just yet. I love steampunk. I love metal music (nu-metal especially).

I am a liberal, left-wing feminist whose eating habits are within the vegetarian boundaries. I say feminist but I suppose I am more an equalist as it were. I strongly believe that opportunities should be provided to anyone despite their class, gender, sexuality or race providing they can do whatever it is they are seeking to do.

This is me and this blog will hopefully enable me to rant on to whomever is willing to read what I have to say.

Best wishes

xox